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Life Is Like A Roller Coaster Ride; When Emotions Go Up, Intelligence Goes Down

Screen Shot 2013-08-11 at 9.35.55 AMHave you ever heard the saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”  This saying holds a lot of truth.

No matter where you are from, or who raised you, dysfunction – on some level – is really a normal part of living.  One day life is going along just fine and then, WHAM, the emotions go up, while intelligence goes down. Suddenly you feel like your on a roller coaster ride.  You say things you regret and life gets out of balance.  Its time to step back… so you can emotionally connect logic and compassion again.

Life can often feel like a roller coaster ride.  A prolonged sense of emotions can cause a great deal of dysfunction in your relationships, no matter if they’re personal or professional.  Since we all deal with high emotions, it means at times we’re all one big dysfunctional family living in the world together.

Imagine how it would feel to live in a society where there was only peace, only love, only joy?  That would be perfect wouldn’t it?  A day of love helps you see that no matter what goes on around you in your external world, it is still possible to feel that way internally. What does a day of love look like? It could be anything that brings you spiritually closer to releasing the pain you feel inside.  How do I know?  Because its happened in my life and in the lives of so so many people I’ve coached over the years.  If someone had told me releasing emotions within a few moments was possible years ago I’m not so sure I would have believed them. I was too busy stewing in them or venting to my friends about what was wrong.  All that changed when i learned what the day of love concepts were.

It’s okay to feel skeptical, but you don’t want to stay there too long.  You want to keep in mind that joy is there to get you through the difficult times, which we all have no matter how rich we are or poor we are.  I’ve hung out with a very rich crowd for the past few years and I’m telling you the truth when I say that the rich are no different than the poor when it comes to depression, anxiety or poor relationships. No matter how much money you have it can’t buy love or healthy relationships.

If you’ve read my book, connecting faith, hope and love, then you may already know that I haven’t had the easiest life.  I’ve dealt with abuses in every form, grieved the death of family members and even struggled when my friends were murdered, but regardless of what I’ve been through I know I am deeply blessed, and grateful, because its helped to shape who I am today. I have a blessed life today, far greater than anything I could have imagined.  Building relationships of Godly proportions can bring success to you in ALL ways, not just some ways.

Now prepare your heart as I am going to talk direct for a minute about a topic that most people refuse to talk about out fear.  And the reason I bring this up is because the subject of dysfunction and suicide go hand in hand, but if you find its too over the top then skip the rest of this post.

My daughter stumbled on a youtube video with clips of people jumping off the golden gate bridge with the goal of ending their lives. The Bridge is a notorious place for suicides.  The people who jump feel completely unloved and absolutely hopeless. You see they need to make some changes in their lives, but they quit on themselves before before making that choice.  I understand that feeling so there is no condemnation about it. I simply know its not necessary to quit, but to dig deep inside for change.  Quitting is easy. Standing through the storm takes courage and that’s what you’ll learn to do if you choose to come to the Day of Love and learn from my programs on healing and restoration.

Screen Shot 2013-06-07 at 10.07.28 PMMany years ago a teenager named Kevin Hines stood on that bridge for 40 minutes. No one approached him to ask what was wrong. A tourist came up and stood next to him but rather than ask why he was standing there, she asked him instead if he could take her photograph.  That may seem shocking to some, but as a tourist she had an agenda.  He also had an agenda.  He actually wanted her to help him because he couldn’t help himself.  The problem is, he was looking for that help from another. Looking for help in an external dysfunctional world rather than building up and securing his internal world. Kevin isn’t alone in thoughts of suicide. Our of 100 clients I worked with between 2004 and 2006, 75% had thought about suicide at least once in their life. I’d be wiling to bet the number was much higher than that but some kept it hidden.

My question has always been:  how many people changed their minds just before their about to jump? How many want another chance? Do they experience that moment of “Oh no, what did I do!” and how many of them would never have been on that bridge in the first place if they knew what I knew, which is how important they really are to the whole human race.    In fact, I know that people would never again have thoughts like that if they could experience God the way you and I can, or the way others have.  I’ve known the pain of losing loved one’s to suicide and so that question about people changing their minds mid stream has haunted me for years.

I couldn’t get it out of my mind until the Kevin Hines story answered it for me.  He said he took the picture for the tourist, handed her back her camera, then jumped to his death.  However, just after making the leap, he instantly changed his mind.  He realized he had made a mistake, and tried to grab for the rail but it was too late. Within 4 seconds he said he came up with this ABC plan. “It was simply this: He said, A) God, save me, B) throw your head back and C) hit feet first,”

He survived but not without years of painful rehabilitation.  Today, Kevin is an author and talented speaker who sets about preventing suicides.

You will never ever know what great things you can accomplish by giving up.   For me, quitting was not an option. In the year of 2007 my 18-yr-old nephew drowned. A few months later, his mom, who was my little sister also died from cancer. My husband want to end our 25 year marriage, and I had to shut down a successful investing company because my family was more important. At the end of that year I had an accident that caused a traumatic brain injury that took me years to recover from. Quitting was never an option. I relied on God’s strength not my own  and its my hope that you get to that place in your spirit too.  The Day of Love helps you create a plan to survive, then allows God to help you thrive in feeling the freedom you need to live the rest of your life. That feeling of being loved, of knowing what its like to be hopeful and experience joy every single day – well – its priceless!! It gets you through the tough times.

Below is a comment box for you to share a time when God helped you make it through a tough time, and don’t forget to sign up for our free gifts where you get to hear amazing guests teach new concepts of thriving, plus a PDF full of tips to start right where you are today.  Sharing is not only a way to inspire others, but you never know when you’ll encourage someone else to say what Kevin did; “God save me. I’m throwing my head back and I’m landing feet first.”

Always Love,

Author Kellie Frazier

Coaching people personally and professionally since 2004, Kellie Founded Connecting LLC, an leadership training company. Her dedication to loving people allows her to give back to her community by mentoring youth, volunteering for Hospice and creating a school for needy children abroad.



Founder at Connecting LLC
After persevering through a traumatic brain injury and death of family members in 2007, Kellie Frazier was blessed with a miracle. As she pressed into God's vision for her life, she went on to publish several books while helping others publish their books. She finds great fulfillment in living a loving CHRIST-ian lifestyle. A devoted wife and mother for more than 34 years, she loves God, and others as she loves herself.

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