Learning How to Deal With the Whys in my Life
Why is a big question that I’ve had to learn how to deal with in my life. Being open to the challenges that come up in life has helped me to be flexible with change. One of the biggest Why questions that I’ve had to answer in my life is… Why am I here and what am I suppose to do with my life? In looking over my life, I have found that there have been special moments in when I have been challenged to change. Whether it was in my personal life or my business life, I made a change. The key to me making the changes in has been my openness to flexibility with solutions to challenges. One of my personal experience of being open to change was when I lost my father, 2 days before my birthday, in 2012. I asked God, “Why did this happen?” And how was I going to deal with it? I felt like I was walking around if a fog without a clear direction. All I knew was that I needed to be available for my mother. So I asked my mom where would she want to live, because I knew she would want to move. She chose Kansas City, MO and I chose to move with her. My ‘why’ in this situation has been answered one year later. Moving to Kansas City has been the best decision I could have made. It opened up doors for me that I couldn’t have expected in my business, which leads to financial benefits. What helped me most in this life challenge was to be open to change by moving to Kansas City, MO.
Open yourself up to change
Being open to change means knowing yourself. What is right for someone else may not be right for you. Recognizing the signs your body and mind are giving you is the first step to being open to change. If something doesn’t feel right, or if you find yourself exhibiting signs of stress or unhappiness, then be open to changing things in your life. You are living your life. Happiness in your own life will allow you to spread that joy to others. Some of the ways you can be open to change are:
- Be willing to learn – Be open to the experience of change and what can be learned from it.
- Be positive – Do not dwell on negative thoughts or negative people. You are the only person who can determine your path.
- Take a minute – Often times when change is sudden we feel we must act quickly. Take a step back and give yourself a bit of time to think about your decisions.
Flexibility is one of the keys to change. Often times what we think is the best path turns out not to be. Flexibility allows us to change. Flexibility means rolling with the punches, and changing your plans if needed, to deal with what life throws at us. Being flexible is healthy and allows us to grow and learn. To be flexible:
- Trust yourself – Trust your own instincts and feelings. You do know the right choice for you.
- Have goals – Think about what you truly want in life and actively work towards it. Being flexible allows you to accept opportunity when it presents itself.
Why is it so hard to change?
Change and flexibility can be hard. We are set in our ways and we stick with what works and what is comfortable – even if it is to our detriment. It can be hard to switch paths, especially if the catalyst for change is something we had no control over. When you are on a path, the fear of the unknown can keep you from going in a new direction even though it is necessary. Conquering this fear is necessary to move forward. Think about your fear. What is it based on? Is it irrational? Take a small step in a new direction.
You don’t have to make a big change, but take steps to start on a new path. Being open to change will allow you to answer the whys in your life. If you are asking yourself questions like, “Why am I here and what am I supposed to do with my life?” then something great is in store for you. Something more is waiting for you. The journey to find that answer is part of the answer.
Be willing to ask yourself the hard questions and travel down whatever path you are led to. Travel this path with a sense of flexibility and change and listen to your heart. Do what is right for you, and you alone, and you will find the answers and the success you’re looking for. As always, let us know if we can help you! Day of Love team is here to support those changes you might be ready for.
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