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Learning How To Deal With a Cheating Husband

cheatingThe other day I was absolutely devastated to realize that my husband was cheating on me…  I couldn’t believe it.  What had I done to deserve this?  I felt so betrayed that it had been happening right under my nose.  Multitudes of thoughts raced through my head…  How long?  How many times?  Isn’t honesty always the best policy?  How could I have been so stupid to not have noticed?  On and on and on…  Then finally I realized – this was more about him than it was about me.  After all, we both took the same vows!  For better or worse right?  Well, I have found out that promising to diet together can definitely bring out the worst!

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What happened to “we can do this together” and “if you can’t have it then I can’t have it”?  I really don’t remember seeing chocolate bars and pretzels on a no sugar, no carbs, no fat diet lifestyle change!  What almost happened next haunts me…  I immediately wanted to scarf down a bag of chips, ice cream, soda, etc.  I could literally see myself in another reality where I was in a food binge frenzy!  I don’t know how I got out of it without partaking, but somehow I came to my senses and didn’t.  It floored me to realize that I would let my husband’s choices destroy all my hard work! What was that saying about ME and how I was valuing myself?

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Even though we love them – men are such wimps – that’s why they don’t have to go through childbirth right?  The women are the glue that holds a family together, right?  Why should dieting be any different?  

Actually, I am happy to report that I lost 22 pounds with absolutely no cheating!  My husband has done well even though he has cheated!

I wish I could say that was the end of the story…  but it isn’t…  not by a long shot!

cheating4 cYes, I too am now a cheater…  Group activities are horrible for dieting, especially when it is for an extended weekend and you are freezing while tenting in the mountains!  I brought all the “right” foods for my husband and I, but when I saw all the carbs and sugars and fats that others brought – I was a goner… I wanted everything I had deprived myself of.  Yes, I gained 4 of the pounds back – but what I am the most proud of is that I lost it again, and the fact that I didn’t beat myself up for not doing something “perfectly”.  I have finally realized that it is okay to make mistakes – the world won’t come to and end – and it’s fun for my husband and I to occasionally cheat together…  After all, I have another 22 pounds to lose and to keep off !!!

Gaill Blackburn

Gaill Blackburn is Day of Love’s Emcee. Gaill is a healer, intuitive, best-selling author, coach, speaker, non-profit co-founder, and volunteer.

She is happily married to Bret, a two-time traumatic brain injury survivor, and mom to Britney, a beautiful 16-year old born with dwarfism and hydrocephalus, enduring over 20 surgeries.

Knowing first-hand how easy it is to fall into victim mentality, Gaill’s strength lies in helping others to understand that there are truly no victims in life. She awakens them to what she calls the “God Instances” in life that they thought were merely insignificant coincidences.

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