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How To Trade Strife For Peace

Strife can begin by lack of respect for the emotions of other people.

In many lionoccasions we become too comfortable, and fail to guard ourselves and become too casual. We start using the wrong choice of words to relate to one another.

Sometimes we use demeaning names or the things that our partners have confided in us against them as a weapon of defense. At the same time we are not taking into consideration the enormous responsibility that entails being a confidant to that person.

It takes an effort to keep a watch over our lips so that what comes out of our mouth is only for edification and not destruction.

To use the correct words, and speak in love. To speak according to the Word of God.

There is tremendous power in the tongue. Power of life and death. What we speak is what we receive, therefore we must speak life and blessing into our marriages, and help our spouses with the things we say.

We also need to pay attention to our mate’s opinion. The whole world doesn’t revolve around us.

  • What would happen if every time we disagree instead of using our hurt emotions we would offer a solution?
  • What would happen if every time our mate offends us we reply with kindness and love?
  • What if instead of withdrawing and sulking we would communicate and smile?
  • How much different our homes, marriages, and lives would be?

We are responsible for the example our children see in us.

Our behavior will shape their emotions, and the way they see life in general. If we stay calm and look for solutions instead of bursting out in rage it will not only model self-control, but will also give a good example of communication, and respect.


When my husband first came back home I faced the need of speaking to the other woman. I offer to reach out and talk to her not in a judgmental way, but to clarify the situation and move on. Her reaction was somehow shocking to me. She seemed more arrogant than I would have expected. We discussed the situation, and instead of me accusing her and using demeaning words I went right ahead offered my opinion and for God’s glory used the conversation to exhort her to seek God and change her life. You might say, “but what about me? what about my feelings, and my hurt?” Well, you place those emotions and feelings at the feet of Christ. When we act in accordance to the Word of God, and in obedience He will take care of everything. He has a way of fixing what it’s been broken.

The Lord released me from the anger, the strife, and hurt that getting involved in a fight with  the woman who almost destroyed my marriage would have caused, and instead gave me my life partner, the man I and our children love back. Our home is intact by the grace of God. This also gave her an opportunity to experience the grace of God in her life. I can only pray that The Lord helps her find the way to couplesalvation and a better future outside of the snares and lies of the enemy.

Only the love of our God can carry out these things.

Now I have to ask you. Will you trade strife for peace in your marriage, and in your home and let God do the work that He is so eager to do? Will you yield your heart to God’s unconditional love, and walk in peace?

If you find yourself growing weary, and just plain tired and would like information on healing and restoration you can find help here:

Connie Lonon

Connie Lonon

Connie is a Puerto Rico native that moved to the US in spring of 1994. A decision that was in itself a leap of faith. Connie has been recently called to write her experiences in life through the magnifying glass of God's glory. She is a married mother of six amazing children, and one beautiful step daughter. Connie is a self-employed Child Care Provider that worked hard to earn a Certificate of Mastery in Child Development. With humbled passion Connie will share her life stories and grow into the place that God has called her in to show God's love, mercy, and compassion to a world that desperately needs it.
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2 Responses to How To Trade Strife For Peace

  • You are so right, Connie! Everything seems to fall into place when we make the choice to love the way God loves. This love covers a multitude of sins.

    • Thanks for your comment Jaylin! Yes, The Lord tells us to love his way for our own good. That’s how amazing his love is!!

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