How To Submit And Love
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
When a man and a woman decide to take the vows of Holy matrimony, they go into a marriage where everything is joyful, and new. The couple bring home the gifts from the wedding reception, some will go on their honeymoon right after to start the rest of their lives together in great expectancy of new goals and dreams, and everything seems perfect.
But, how many couples come into this lifelong covenant with a full understanding of their roles as helper for women, and provider and protector for men? How many couples really understand from a biblical point of view their responsibilities towards their new spouses? How many wives will be able to honor their husbands, and how many husbands will be able to unconditionally love their wives once the sparkle of the honeymoon fades away?
No one said that marriage would always be glamorous, or that love would always come easy. With time things start to deteriorate, and just as with material objects, once times passes by it is up to us to take care of what we have to make it stay beautiful and jovial, and to make it last. With tender loving care we can make an old car look as gorgeous as it was when it was first bought. The same way we need to take care of our marriages, as beautiful fragile treasures that have been given to us to cherish and protect.
We need to cherish, our mate’s hearts as well. There is nothing more beautiful than to know that you have entrusted your heart to someone who is going to treat it as if it was gold, because to them it is!!
We as wives need to understand that we need to treat our husbands like we would treat the Lord Jesus, Imagine the Lord came to your house after a long day making furniture as a carpenter. What would your attitude be when he walked through the door? Would you start telling him how he needs to comply to the long list of tasks that you have planned for him, that he didn’t take out the trash, and how tired you are of him not listening to your demands? Would you instead receive him with a smile, a hug and a kiss filled with love knowing that he probably had a long hard day at work? Would you let him rest in his peaceful and loving home for a few minutes before he has to tend to his responsibilities as the head of the home? This is how you submit to your husband. Submitting don’t mean to be used and abused, it means to be the helper and loving partner that God placed in your husband’s life!
Why not have dinner ready when he comes home from work, for those of us that come home with enough time or stay at home during the day? Why not give your husband a few minutes to settle down before talking about how every little detail of how your day didn’t go as you expected? We must have a desire to serve our spouses that is reciprocal, each should put the needs, wants, and desires of the other spouse before ours.
In a marriage covenant there shouldn’t be any third parties that contribute to decisions more than your spouse. The only other person of significance in decisions in your marriage should be God. The only one that satisfies the human heart is the Lord, because we were made to love God above all. At the same time, He doesn’t replace your spouse, because He designed our hearts to have a desire for companionship, and our spouses have their own places in our hearts and lives.
Now husbands, why not get your wife a dozen roses on your way home from work? Why not make an effort and give her a break from the kids, or do a chore to prove that you want to help out around the house? Why not take a moment to actually look at her and take a moment to tell her how beautiful she is? Or take the time to caress her skin, and make her feel desirable? If you make your wife feel like she is the only woman in the world, like she is the most beautiful, like she is worth your time and you romance her, you will have a happy wife. That is how you tell a woman with your actions how much you love her and how thankful you are that God gave you her!
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