How To Create An Inviting Atmosphere In Your Marriage
There’s a moment in marriage in which tension builds up, and sometimes for no clear reason we feel like something is not right. Lots of times we as wives, and women want our husbands to give us the love and attention we crave, and we expect our husbands to understand our emotions without even expressing those emotions to them. Somehow we think that our husbands need to understand us in a way that we shouldn’t even have to say anything, we think that is their job to fulfill our emotional desires and needs without us even uttering a word. This is a very unrealistic way to approach our relationships with our husbands.
The only one that can fill every void in our heart is God
He created us in His image, and for His purpose. The source of our love, and the ability to fulfill our deepest desires cannot come from another human being. How would a man be able to respond to every one of our insecurities? How would he be able to understand exactly what we feel when we are feeling it? How would a man be able to supply each one of our desires? Isn’t that a bit of a tall order to fill?
Our husbands have emotions, and needs that require our attention also. When we place too much demand on our spouses something is bound to “snap”. Some men by nature don’t know how to handle stress. They like to process one thing at a time, and are not very good at multitasking. After a long day of work, who wants to come home to demands, and to an atmosphere of nagging and strife? We need to let our husbands wind down, let them relax, let them cool off. Pray that the Lord will give us a servant’s heart. We need to think of nice little things that we can do to make our husbands feel comfortable when they come home after work.
You know your husband, what he likes and enjoy. Make use of those resources to create a pleasant atmosphere when he comes home to see his wonderful wife. Have a smile on when he walks in the door. Have a nice picked up house, that smells good. Let the children know if they are old enough that they need to help too. Even if the house is a wreck the rest of the day make it nice for your husband to see when he comes home from a long day of stress.
Fresh and creative ideas to create a peaceful environment in your home.
Once your husband has had time to relax and is ready you might want to come to him in a nice tone and start a pleasant conversation.
- Find a way to convey to him what happened in your day, and any requests you might have in terms of helping and any other activities that are pending. You’ll notice that he will appreciate you better for taking care of him first, and be willing to help you and listen to you.
- Always keep a positive fresh outlook on your marriage. This can be achieved by planning a nice evening, or a fun activity to do with your husband.
- Maybe a new home improvement project that the two of you can do together.
- His favorite meal.
- Go by the store and pick up his favorite color shirt or shoes.
- Rent his favorite movie, and plan a relaxing time together.
This is what the Lord Jesus referred to when he said it is better to give than to receive. In God’s principle of giving we are a channel of blessings to others while God takes care of our needs. Don’t fear or hesitate thinking that your husband will take advantage of the situation, God will come through for you as you are obedient to His Word.
We as wives are our husbands helpers, God created us for this purpose.
“But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” Genesis 2:20-22.
Although not every situation or family is the same, in most situations where there are discrepancies in the marriage one partner is trying to fill the incorrect role which causes more stress in the relationship. Create anything that will make your home a peaceful, relaxing place that he can find harmonious, and loving! A place that no temptation out in the world will be able to replace!
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