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My Greatest Fear Turned Into My Biggest Blessing

report_cardAs a Mom of a junior in high school I feel like I am constantly worrying about grades, grades, grades, and more grades…  You know when I was growing up your parents really didn’t have a clue about your grades until the dreaded “report card day” came out.  It was one day of horror, that was it.  But these days in the age of technology, parents have instant and constant access to grades 24/7!  In my opinion this isn’t necessarily a good thing!

My daughter would certainly get an A+ if “Social” was a category!  I consider her very smart, but she just doesn’t seem to apply herself as much as she should in order to get solid A’s.  Historically if she likes the teacher she does pretty good in the class.  However if she clashes with the teacher it is a constant uphill battle.  Not that she particularly clashed with the teacher this time, but she heard in the very beginning that this teacher was very hard and that seemed to have set the tone for her.

I noticed her grades to be on a steady decline in that class and started applying a bit of pressure/concern/fear (whatever you call it) as I am sure many parents do.  I tried everything – even bribery!  Nothing worked.  It can be such a struggle when you hear your child state that they are “trying their hardest” yet you see them doing everything other than studying, as well as blaming everyone else instead of taking responsibility.

report-card FMy greatest fear was that she would definitely flunk that class.  At the end of the semester, don’t you know it – I got a call from her teacher telling me that she flunked and would have to be transferred into a slower class on that subject for the second semester.  I have to admit that I didn’t know what to do.  I was sooooo upset for my daughter, and at the same time incredibly angry that she didn’t take her studies more seriously.

Thank God for Kellie Frazier – she has such amazing insight…  She was able to talk me “off the ledge” and helped me to realize that it is okay to give your child the room they need to experience failure.  As a parent the last thing we want to see is for our child to fail at anything.  But the reality of failing ended up being an incredible blessing.  After the initial shock wore off, I actually heard my daughter say (for the first time ever) that she had no one to blame but herself for not trying harder!  It was a hard lesson to learn, but I feel pretty positive that it will be the first, and the last, F she will ever make…  At least I hope so!  I definitely know that, thanks to Kellie, I will be better equipped to deal with it!

2 Corinthians 12:9
New International Version (NIV)

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

Gaill Blackburn

Gaill Blackburn is Day of Love’s Emcee. Gaill is a healer, intuitive, best-selling author, coach, speaker, non-profit co-founder, and volunteer.

She is happily married to Bret, a two-time traumatic brain injury survivor, and mom to Britney, a beautiful 16-year old born with dwarfism and hydrocephalus, enduring over 20 surgeries.

Knowing first-hand how easy it is to fall into victim mentality, Gaill’s strength lies in helping others to understand that there are truly no victims in life. She awakens them to what she calls the “God Instances” in life that they thought were merely insignificant coincidences.

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